My wife, Lisa, would sometimes make fun of me whenever I attempted to work the movies into our marriage. The movies trick us. Every scene is carefully choreographed to perfectly land romantic moments.
Early in our marriage, I tried to make every romantic moment perfect. I'd peer into Lisa's eyes with just the right curl in my eyebrows, and laser-like focus from my eyeball to hers. To me it seemed inviting. To her it was really creepy.
She'd kind of laugh and hurt my feelings and then she'd be like, "Everything we do doesn't have to be perfect. We're not living in the movies."
I kind of thought she was settling for less whenever she said that but looking back, she was just being brave and working on our marriage. She didn't need me to sweep her off her feet and choreograph every interaction.
Marriage takes work.
Marriage doesn't come with a script and an editing room floor and no spouse on earth is a perfect actor. So, we have to be willing to accept the reality of marital imperfection with the hope of growth and relational victory over years of commitment, trust, hope, and constant adjustments.
Just because your marriage is hard doesn't mean that your marriage is wrong. Every marriage is hard. Every marriage needs work.
Choose this day to commit to your spouse, commit to your marriage over the long haul, and to commit to working together to make your relationship as strong as the Lord wants it to be.
It's possible. Your marriage can be more satisfying than you could ever imagine.
You and Your Spouse Are Loved!