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Three Ideas to End Sexual Harassment

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A revolution of sorts is unfolding before our sexually overexposed eyes. Women are choosing to fight back. No longer is it tolerable (as if it were ever appropriate before) to sexually bully a woman into participating in unwanted, perverted activity. 
 
So many powerful men are being called out and thinned out of the marketplace. I wonder when it's going to end. How many more women are going to come forward and how many more men are going to be shamed?
 
It makes me wonder how we can get to the bottom of all of this. I'm not convinced we'll ever be able to totally eradicate sexual harassment of women (and even men) but here are three ideas that may help lessen the timeless epidemic.
 
First, when are we going to stop exploiting women? I get it that women are these beautiful, physically desirable creatures. Not too many men on earth miss that reality.  
 
But when are women (and men) gonna stand up from their progressive mountaintops and shout "enough already" when hamburger commercials flaunt young women in really small outfits eating a cheeseburger with faces that should only be made on one's honeymoon night?
 
Women are more than sexual eye-candy. Isn't it time we value minds and hearts over butts and breasts?
 
Second, men, let's raise up our daughters and influence our nieces to respect themselves and expand their self-identity horizons. These little girls, and soon to be young women, need not travel the same path as women before them who weren't told by a loving, influential man in their life that they are more than physical meat, way more. 
 
Women are incredible human beings made in the image of God who need not prove themselves later by compromising themselves first. In no way did God ever create women with the intention that they would become sexual hood ornaments on the social transportation system of life. 
 
Finally, when are we all going to understand that we're accountable? Listen, it doesn't matter if you accept it or not, but there is a moral solar system. The center of it is a Holy but infinitely gracious and loving God. We revolve around Him. He doesn't revolve around us. 
 
It's time we stop what we're doing and look up and ask more questions like, "What do you want me to do? How do you want me to live? How should I treat women differently? Is there any place in my own life that is missing the mark? Am I ignoring injustice?"
 
The Center of the universe has a better way for women and for all of us. Look up more often. Maybe one day we'll wake up to find powerful men powerful because they've humbled themselves before a mighty Father instead of giving themselves over to insatiable appetites that devour the dignity and beauty of women.
 
Be strong, Ladies.  
 
You Are Loved!
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Will You Tell Your Spouse?

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Every marriage plateaus. Every marriage requires changes and adjustments. It's totally normal and it's perfectly healthy. 
 
Is this what your marriage needs right now? Does your marriage need to be tweaked? You might want to take a step back and pray about it. 
 
When your marriage is stuck, it's a signal that it's ready for timely reinventing. I'm not talking about a total departure from what the relationship has been. No doubt there's been incredible moments and healthy rhythms that have created a strong foundation for your marriage that has led you to this moment of relational inventory. 
 
However, it's going to take vulnerablity for reinventing to effectively take place. 
 
Vulnerability moves a marriage forward. It's the willingness to risk. Vulnerability is the willingness to be open and honest and to be willing to fail or succeed in front of your spouse. 
 
My wife, Lisa, was vulnerable with me the other day. She felt hurt by something that I neglected to follow through with but she had the courage to be vulnerable and share her heart with me. It was kind of hard to hear but it was helpful.
 
Lisa's vulnerable moment made our marriage better.  
 
She was signaling to me that she was changing as a woman. Something she didn't care about in the past was different now. Her heart was changing and she needed me to know about it because she wanted me to care for her well. 
 
That's awesome. There's nothing wrong with that. 
 
Is your marriage kind of blah right now? It might be that you and your spouse need to open up, be honest, and share how your hearts and minds and passions and desires are changing. Let each other know. Be courageous. 
 
Here are some areas where you can chose to be vulnerable with each other:
 
  • Is everything going okay financially?
  • Are we both satisfied with our sexual intimacy?
  • Is spiritual growth a priority?
  • How's our communication been lately? Is it stimulating? Is it too routine and boring?
  • Are we having fun together?
  • Is there some unresolved hurt somewhere?
Pray about this. Where might you and your spouse need to reinvent your marriage?
 
It's not nagging and it's not complaining. It's just open and honest inventory. It's a chance to let your spouse know about your ever-changing self. 
 
Go for it, spouses! Your marriage will grow once again. Trust the grace of God in all of this. 
 
You Are Loved! 
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