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Sin Is Not Merely Forgotten

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Forgiveness is easily one of the greatest gifts on the planet. Can you imagine if your lifelong pile of wrongs were never completely covered by grace? How stressful would it be to keep piling up one failure after another without forgiveness? 
Can you imagine never being able to forget your sins? Awful. It would be awful to be reminded every single day of the many ways you fall short of perfection. 
That's where memory loss would be super convenient. It'd be awesome to lose the ability to remember failure. "Hey, if I can't remember then I can't feel guilty. If I can't remember that I lost my patience with my wife and hurt her really bad, then I'll feel better about my myself and my marriage."
You can see how that would be helpful, right? But, at its core, forgiveness isn't about forgetting sin. When God forgives us, it's not that He loses His intellectual ability to recall our individual failure. Even though you're forgiven, he can still recall to mind the time when you stole a Milky Way from the local gas station. And actually, all you have to do is read the Bible and see all the ways people's sins are still clearly documented. 
The power of forgiveness isn't in the forgetting. 
The power of forgiveness is in the SEPARATING.
True forgiveness only comes from God. And true forgiveness is only possible because Jesus Christ put all of our sins upon Himself and died on the cross for our sins. The shedding of His blood covers our sins. 
And when God forgives us, it's not that he simply removes the failure from His mind. It's that He actually separates the sin from us. In other words, he removes our sin from us as far as the east is from the west. 
Because of this, He never counts our sins against us again. Ever! So, you could be in a room with your sin and God at the same time, and God could see it but He wouldn't hold it against you. He wouldn't remind you of it and he wouldn't expect you to be held back because of it. He removes the guilt and the penalty. You are free!
So, by faith, ask the Lord to forgive you today. He will. He will because Jesus made it possible.
You Are Loved!

Your Wife Is Afraid to Tell You This

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She's Tired. The dishes aren't going to clean themselves. Soccer practice isn't going to conveniently drive itself to your backyard. Grades aren't going to improve all by themselves. There's so much routine. There's so much repetitive effort. Don't get me wrong, she loves to show love by doing these incredibly loving things, but she's tired. Simply tired. 
So, husband, notice her. Notice the routine. Thank her. Let her know that the household runs so much smoother because of the great care she takes to make sure things happen. So much happens because of her. So, help her. Do something you don't normally do. She needs a break. Even one little change in your routine will make a big difference in her routine. 
She's Dreamy. It's not that there's fifty dreams in her heart that need to come true. Seriously, there's not. She's not that needy. However, there are a few really important ones. It's different for every wife; somewhat different. She might have dreams of financial stability. Perhaps she dreams dreams of memorable, annual family vacations. You know, the whole family's together and memories are made by each scoop of ice cream consumed at the town parlor. Maybe her dream is for clarity for the future. She wants to know the plan. What's the plan?
Husband, she wants you to dream with her. Actually, she'd love for you to help lead the way. She wants to know you think about your family often. She wants to know that you have a vision for what your family can be. Pray with her. Ask the Lord to direct your steps. Dream. Let her know you can see the whole family going on a mission's trip every other year or vacationing at your favorite spot in California every year. Use your imagination. She'll smile. No, she'll laugh with joy. 
She's Special. There's no one on earth quite like her. She's different. She's unique. No one smiles like her or laughs like her. There's no woman on earth that thinks exactly how she thinks. She's special. And you know what, her physical appearance is special, too. She's unique and she's incredibly beautiful. She's your standard of beauty. 
So, you know what, appreciate her. Tell her. Look her in the eyes and behold her beauty. Cherish her. You don't need to fantasize about anyone else or set your eyes on images that aren't her. Keep your marriage bed pure. She's all you need. Water where you're planted. As you do, your passion for one another will grow wildly satisfying. 
Men, you have a woman, an amazing wife, to live alongside. Make every moment count. 
You Are Loved!