He's Hurting. Men have wounds. Deep wounds. Father wounds. Expectation wounds. Wounds from lost dreams. Words, even. Hurtful words. Words that destroyed something inside him long ago.
So, pray for your husband. Pray that he'll heal. Slowly but gently and lovingly ask your husband where he needs your help and nurturing. Encourage him to talk to someone who can give him insight and wisdom.
He's Bored. Routine is sucking the life out of him. Youthful dreams died long ago and he's in maintenance mode. Go to bed. Wake up. Shower. Eat. Drive to work. Perform. Drive home. Eat. Hopefully spend some quality time with family. Watch TV. It's possible that his heart rate hasn't gone up in months. Maybe nothing has made his pulse quicken.
So, sit down with your husband. Talk. Brainstorm how both you and he can step out in faith. Create an even larger vision for your family, your marriage, and life. Tell him you believe in him and that it's time to seek the Lord for more.
He's Needy. Sexually, of course. A man's sexual rhythm is usually every 3-4 days. A woman's is normally 6-7 days. Kind of a big difference. Emotionally, as well. He needs your encouragement more than you could ever know. Physically, too. He needs to shake off the cobwebs. Exercise. Eat better. He's losing energy and stamina because he's not taking care of himself.
So, encourage him. Surprise him with a text while he's at work and affirm him. Tell him how much he means to you. Thank him for providing for you and your family. Shock him with a sexual advancement. Tell him the kids are taken care of and tonight is for the two of you only.
Wife, there's no pressure on you to be everything for your husband. Jesus needs to be his first love and his deepest love. However, the more you help him become the man God wants him to be, the more you're going to thrive as well. It benefits both of you.
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