"Can you play Monopoly with us?"
That was the unexpected request from my two teenage boys. Just the other night I'm upstairs watching a pretty sweet Western film only to be interrupted by the deep voice of my 17-year-old son asking me to play Monopoly.
My first reaction was disbelief. "How can this be," I thought. Is it possible that I'm being asked a no-strings-attached, simple request to merely spend time with my progressively independent and socially particular teenage boys? Is this a joke? Am I going to fall into some kind of trap or something?
I didn't know that my sons had the ability to ask a question that had nothing to do with the giving of money or the going out with friends or the driving of a family car. I was a little bit shaken.
My second reaction was to say no because it's Monopoly. Monopoly takes time. It's a marathon. No one ever really plays by the rules or even truly wins the game. Players usually just give up and gift their property to the most ruthless personality across the board.
But, the Holy Spirit or something inside of me said, "Don't pass up this opportunity to spend quality time with your sons." So, I said yes.
Shared experiences are so important when wanting to build intimacy with people. Intimacy is simply the by-product of shared experiences.
Do you want to get closer to someone? A child? A spouse? A friend? A co-worker?
Then ask them to experience something with you. Or, say yes to them when they want to experience something with you.
It's so important. Be intentional. Be adventurous. Say YES!
I love it that Jesus intentionally picked out men to spend time with and experience life together. So much intimacy developed because of all the moments they shared learning, serving, walking, eating, and so much more.
So, build intimacy with those you love. Say YES even when most everything inside of you is thinking no. Jesus's disciples said YES and their lives changed forever.
Shared experience is so powerful.
You Are Loved!